‘Time Heals All Wounds’ – Is it Really True?

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We've all heard the saying, "time heals all wounds." But is it really true? It's a common belief that as time goes by, our emotional pain will gradually fade and we'll move on from our hurt. However, the truth is a bit more complicated.


The Common Misconception: Time Heals All Wounds


The idea that time heals all wounds is often given to people who are going through a difficult time in an effort to make them feel better. Behind it is an assumption and expectation that given enough time, the pain of a hurtful experience will fade away. Unfortunately, that’s just not the case. If time were the cure-all for emotional pain, then everyone who has ever experienced emotional distress would eventually heal.



Consider Robin Williams, Princess Diana, and Prince Harry. Despite the passing of time, they still struggled with depression, the pressures of life, and/or numbness from the loss of their loved ones. This is a clear indication that time alone is not enough to heal emotional wounds.


Time alone is not enough to heal our emotional wounds.


Why Time Alone is Not Enough


While it is true that time can provide a certain level of comfort and perspective, it does not always lead to true healing. This is because time alone does not address the root cause of the emotional wound.


That’s why “let time heal your wounds” and phrases like it are a well-intentioned piece of advice, but might actually be the worst advice for anyone trying to heal from their emotional pain and regain their happiness. For some people, time may bring a sense of closure and help them to heal. But for others, time can actually bring up fresh wounds and old memories that continue to cause pain.


If Not Time, Then What Does Heal Wounds?


To heal from our emotional wounds, we first need to acknowledge that time is not the solution. Emotional healing is a much more complex and involved process that requires more than just the passage of time. Wounds that are deeply rooted in our emotions, such as the loss of a loved one or a hurtful relationship experience, can't be healed just by the passage of time.


Instead, we need to put active effort into healing ourselves, which may involve seeking therapy, practicing self-care, simply talking to people we love, and/or finding healthy ways to cope with our emotions. Overcoming emotional pain takes time and effort, and a whole lot of strength and resilience.


Overcoming emotional pain takes time and effort, and a whole lot of strength and resilience.


We also need to stop ignoring or suppressing our emotional wounds, which can lead to ongoing feelings of hurt, anger, and anxiety, and even contribute to us developing even more severe mental or physical health issues.


In that sense, it helps to identify and confront the source of our pain. This may involve exploring our past experiences, traumas, and unresolved issues, and acknowledging and processing the emotions associated with them. (That’s what I guide you to do, step by step, in my group therapeutic coaching program - check it out here). By doing this, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our emotions, which can help us to heal and move forward.



Finally, it’s important to build a support network of people who understand and care about us. Having someone to talk to, who listens and provides emotional support, can be incredibly helpful in the healing process.


Sure, time can make our wounds less raw, but it’s not the cure for emotional pain. It's important to be patient with yourself, seek help if you need it, and remember that it's absolutely okay if you don't feel better immediately. Healing is a journey, not a destination.


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